21/04/20, Stuart Pownall

Control, Influence, Accept

Many of us might be feeling a general lack of control these days - like we're out of the driver's seat and just along for the ride. Usually, the more in control we feel over what's happening in our lives, the more motivated, happier, and less stressed we are. At a time when we're all reaching to take back the steering wheel, it's helpful to shift our focus and actions to what can control and influence.

1. Control - identify the issues or elements of the situation that you can control.

2. Influence - identify the elements that you can't control, but that you can influence.

3. Accept - Identify the things that you can neither control or influence and adapt accordingly.

When you understand these potential responses, you can put problems into perspective more easily and get a sense of what you can and can't accomplish. This enables you to focus your efforts where they'll have the most impact.

How to Use the CIA Model

Let's look at how to use the elements of the CIA model in the workplace.

Control the Things That You Can Control

This is the right place to focus your attention for powerful results. First of all, adapt the way you respond to the situations around you (you can read our blog by Bonnie Clarke about this). Try to maintain a positive attitude, sleep well, eat well and make sure you have some sort of routine. Take the opportunity to try something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t had the time for. Learning a new language etc.

Influence What You Can Influence

Having a strong influence is the next best thing to having control. Clearly, you can’t fix what’s on the news or how constant it is, but you can change how you’re responding to it. Try reducing the time spent watching, listening, or reading news articles. Limit the time you spend on social media for example. Help others by spreading your own positivity whenever you interact with them.

Accept – but Manage – What You Cannot Control Or Influence

Sometimes, an issue will genuinely be beyond your control or influence. There's the weather, What’s left on the supermarket shelves, government decisions…. The list goes on. The more time spent focussing on these things, the more likely you are to become stressed. Once you accept that these are out of your control, it can actually help you feel more in control.

What to do next:

Make a list of the things that are weighing on your mind and split them into the C,I,A categories. The use that information to get yourself back in the drivers seat.

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